I’ve noticed something since my diagnoses. Everyone deals with a cancer diagnoses differently. I know how family deals with it. My family has dealt with it too many times. My family is the type of family who deals with it with lots of love and support. We are there with each other every step of the way. What I have noticed recently is how other people in your life deal with it. I’m not saying that they don’t love you or care about you because they do. I’m not being critical just observing. I’m sure not perfect. I’ve mainly observed two different responses. They either want to feed me or ignore it. Seriously I’ve had 8 different invitations to go out to dinner. I’m not complaining, I love to go out to dinner so yeah let’s go. Others just kind of ignore it or avoid me which is fine I completely understand it but it is hard to ignore, it’s kinda like an elephant in the room (a big pink one lol). At first I wasn’t sure what to think. Now I think sometimes people don’t know what to say. They may be afraid of upsetting you. It is sometimes easier for people to stay away. Some are ok with talking about it, some aren’t, and some want to feed you :) There is no right or wrong. I would love it though if we all went out to dinner. I’ll even let you pick the restaurant ;)
Ahhh make that 9 dinner invitations (a new one today) Nom Nom Nom :)
I would love to meet you and take you out for dinner :) I would also want to talk about it all with you.
ReplyDeleteI had the same response from friends when I was diagnosed with Crohn's. It's understandable like you said, but I wish it didn't hurt so much at the same time.